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5 Steps To Getting Over a Fight.

November 16, 2011

You know those moments when you are married and things just get a little knotted up. Not  a big awful-we -need-therapy argument… but just simple misunderstandings resulting in annoyance…..
Yeah those… the kind of annoyance where you wouldn’t push him down a grassy hill… but if he sort of tripped down the hill you would sort of smirk…
Normal Married stuff.
Here are 5 things to do to help in those situations
…or better yet..
A list on how not to push your husband down the grassy hill.

1.) Get some Air…. go for a jog …or my favorite do a wayward errand that I have been dodging
*Not the kind of air which makes you crankier…or even more revved up
*The kind of air where you remember “it’s not about me…or him”
2.) Come Clean….Start with phrases like:
*”I was upset/confused when _______ happened.”
*”It bummed me out when you _________ and I really don’t want to feel this way.”
3.)If you need to know his “why” then do it with out being manipulative… just ask him straight out.
*”I want to know why because I really want to avoid this in the future.”
4.)Pray... in all things but in this pray…
*”Just You be glorified,…not me, not him…but You be glorified”..and mean it!
5.)But in the end… don’t push him down the hill…just get over it.
*Decide this time/point/being right is just not worth it.
*You have so much more to offer in your day and this is just stealing…not giving.

Happy Anniversary to Us!!…well… tomorrow.~T

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I would love to hear from anyone else on great tips in getting over simple marriage annoyances…I don’t care if it’s your first day of marriage or you 70th year of it we can all learn from each other! Please leave your favorite tip in the comments section

18 Comments leave one →
  1. emily m. permalink
    November 16, 2011 3:38 pm

    love this post, love those cutie kiddos:)

  2. November 16, 2011 3:42 pm

    You are so right in all of what you said.
    Love thinks of the other first.
    I find when I am busy lovin him up I have less time to focus on self.
    communicate. We are doing better at this than we did the first 20 years.
    slow to anger- If I feel hurt or whatever we discuss it instead of pouting.
    People need to know how you feel to be able to fix it.
    Dont have it all figured out but we are learning- together.

  3. November 16, 2011 3:54 pm

    Thanks for the tips!

    Hmmm…6 months in, I guess I have learned to laugh. Because the best arguments are the ones that end in laughter instead.

    • November 16, 2011 6:38 pm

      well that is a true statement… although I am guilty of “laughing at” in my head and thinking….ohhh i can’t believe you said that, lol

  4. November 16, 2011 5:26 pm

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!! If you don’t mind me asking…how many years? Your picture just cracked me up…get pic to go along with the post…
    Blessings to you and your hubby….and to many many more years…
    If tended to…marriage is like good wine….it does get richer with age:)

    • November 16, 2011 6:39 pm

      Why thank you … we are only married one decade… just a tenth of a century…and we are going for the century 🙂
      Well if marriage is a good wine… I plan on getting pretty toasty!

  5. November 16, 2011 7:26 pm

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  6. November 17, 2011 2:32 pm

    Here are my tips. They work well when I remember to follow them…which is not so often lately. 😦 We seem to be in a phase where each of us thinks it is our turn to have a crisis and the other one should be healthy and supportive for us! The one thing that is really helping consistently right now is that in every conversation we agree that we love each other and want to work it out together. It’s still frustrating that we work and work at it and still feel all tangled, but at least we have a shared goal!

    • November 17, 2011 3:43 pm

      oh yes we have the rule…only one person up the crazy tree at a time.

  7. November 17, 2011 8:49 pm

    so funny… This is the fifth blog along the same line this morning… and I had an in with my husband too… small but I would have smirked indeed had he fallen in a snow bank… just a little… I just kept shoveling snow, hard, and then my brain registered how silly it actually was and I started to laugh and give all the ick and velcro stick over to Jesus who made my heart ever so much gladder and my husband too… all is well when we walk with the King of kings, hand in hand!

    • November 18, 2011 7:21 am

      must be a theme…time of year? people ramping up for the holidays and trying to get their lives ironed out…don’t know…

  8. November 17, 2011 9:13 pm

    Happy Anniversary!
    and a Wonderful post to boot! I loved “remember “it’s not about me…or him””
    you take amazing photos. love them all.
    Blessings to you and your family!
    To God be the glory

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