Skip to content

Better Out then In.

May 3, 2012

He sits down across the way from me and asks me what’s wrong.

And I tell him..because it is my marriage too…and I have learned even if you have to talk yourself into it…better out then in.

and he winces.. because it’s his marriage too..and he knows this means we have to go through it…now that it’s out and not in.

So it begins… the picking off of harmful things.

The things which started out so small…

but after a week of rolling around in the rock tumbler of the human head, come out shiny giving us the illusion we have to value our hurt.

and the kiss goodbye has lost it’s pucker for the week…

and a kiss without pucker tells the other person volumes.

and sometimes this is just the way of the busy household…

when baseballs and ballet shoes are crisscrossing your schedule…

when flight schedules and meals to sick family are being constantly rerouted

when song writing and music practice drown out the sound of an exhausted sigh

when homeschool notebooks pile up and demand to be checked

when business is booming and the phone is always beeping

when seven kids want to be fed all.the.time.

little things get overlooked and sometimes the little things are lunch meat at the grocery and other times it’s a look that says I miss you.

So sorrys are exchanged and I’ll try betters…

because it’s our marriage once again and of all the songs we write…and all the songs we sing…

Our marriage is  what we want to be true worship.

so better out then in…

and now with that settled

we go forward.


More Posts on our Marriage:

~ 5 easy steps to NOT pushing your husband down a hill.
~ An anniversary with Heavy Breathing.
~ A House of Books or how we met.
~ Blinking Back Pregnant Tears
~ Grow as a Worshipper
~ Dance of Love
~ Love Tank (featured on Simple Mom, thanks Tsh)

4 Comments leave one →
  1. May 3, 2012 1:23 pm

    Bravo! How brave of you to write about the reality of marriage. Not the picture perfect moments (although we hold those in our hearts), but the “sorrys are exchanged and I’ll try betters” that truly make the vows stronger. Love the pics. Totally a prophetic picture of working together in the midst of being “stung”.

  2. May 3, 2012 2:49 pm

    really a lot of wisdom in this…bet to go through than skip over it for sure because the little become big…great example in this….

  3. May 5, 2012 8:08 pm

    So well said… marriage as reflection of redemption in Christ!

  4. May 6, 2012 12:33 am

    if only more marriages believed in trying, trying again. you are a shining light, friend. thank you.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: